Friday, March 23, 2012

When Christianity Gets Ugly

Just warning everyone that this blog post is going to be a big rant. Click away now if you don't want to continue. :P

I am so frustrated. Here's what I don't understand; what on Earth is wrong with most Christians in this area? Please know that I am fully aware that there are some wonderful, kind-hearted, inspiring Christians out there. If more Christians were like them, I'd be proud to have that label on me. However, due to the over-abundance of crazies, you'll never ever hear me say "Yep. I'm a Christian!"

Recently there was a very disturbing Facebook status that appeared on my newsfeed. The post was written by a youth pastor from my area. The status itself, as unnecessary as it was, wasn't that offending. It was the 80+ comments on it that were. It basically stated that swearing is wrong, and you should be able to say what you mean without slandering the Lord's name. 

Okay, I understand where he was coming from. Yes, swearing can be tasteless, especially if you're throwing the words out mindlessly in a professional place, around children, elders, or to purposely offend someone. If the status ended there, with little commentary, I would have just scrolled on and forgot about it altogether. 

But here's what happened; a young girl commented simply stating that swearing is proven to reduce stress. I agree with her. No, I'm not proud of it, but sometimes I find myself slipping up and muttering a curse word here and there. Also, I grew up on a farm in Bruce County. When you have to go out and clean the barn, most people don't say "I'm heading out to rake up some goat poo!" No. It's shit. There is nothing dainty or cute about horse, cow, goat and chicken droppings. It's shit. 

Back to the Facebook status… after that girl innocently made her comment, she was literally attacked by leaders and other youth in the church for what she said. They were quoting scripture and completely judging her and where her heart was at with God. 

This is disgusting. Christians are supposed to be representing God's love to others. How dare you judge another person like that. You don't know their background. You don't know what they've been through. WHO CARES if they swear? Who are you to decide where their "heart is with God." 

I would never use that language around my grandparents, or anyone that I knew was offended by it. I totally respect that. But honestly? I don't think God is sitting up there crying about the fact that I said a "curse word". You know what he's upset about? The fact that you guys have proved your judgemental, prude, religious Christian stereotype. The fact that you have just repelled potential people who were looking for a church to go to. I would never bring my non-church friends to a place where they would be judged by their language and who knows what else. Hell, I would never even show up myself.

Tony Campolo sums up my feelings perfectly. "I have three things I'd like to say today. First, while you were sleeping last night, 30,000 kids died of starvation or diseases related to malnutrition. Second, most of you don't give a shit. What's worse is that you're more upset with the fact that I said shit than the fact that 30,000 kids died last night." 

Oh man. I could go on forever about this. I wish I could post that massive, horrible conversation on here so you could see how truly awful it was. And what's even more terrible is that this is only the tip of the iceberg of what so many Christians have done. 

To the poor girl who wrote that comment. I am so sorry. You should never have been treated like that. Christians, especially Christians with leadership authority in a church, should be accepting, loving, and non-judgemental. Something went horribly wrong there. Please know that they're not all like that. Please know that God is not like that.

I'll end the blog with a quote by my amazing pastor, Bruxy Cavey. He says it best. 
"Never read the bible without Jesus as your interpretive principle. Everything points to Jesus. Whenever Christians have tried to follow the bible rather than Jesus they have come up with things like witch burnings. Because it's in the bible. They thought war was the way of God. They enslaved Africans. Killed homosexuals. They thought an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth was God's way and they should practice it. Whenever they followed the words of God and not the Word of God their prayers were full of judgement, and condemnation, and for the death and the suffering of their enemies, rather than praying for their forgiveness, for mercy, and trying to love them. 
Just following the bible is actually not what the bible calls for us to do. The bible points to Jesus. We're to follow Jesus"


  1. Love this blog! Especially love the quote by Tony. Definitely hit the nail on the head there!

    - Amanda


    This is my comment because it's so long. Jeeze la wheeze I need to compress my speech :/

    1. "If everyone is afraid of their image because of the people that falsely represent our faith, then there is no one to correctly represent our faith."

      Great quote, I fully agree. It may not be the easiest to do, but it is important. When Jesus said "pick up your cross and follow Me," he knew it wouldn't be easy. I believe that also means declaring faith no matter what judgements people may have.

  3. Thank you, Amanda!

    Drew, some great points there. Thank you for your input. You're an incredibly smart guy with strong opinions. However, what you said is YOUR opinion. Don't take this the wrong way, I appreciate what you said! But I'm not going to change my opinion based on your comments. We are at two completely different places in our lives, with completely different personalities.

  4. Love you Taylor. I love the quotes at the end especially. Jesus is who we follow. Because He is the way truth and life!

  5. @Drew's Anonymous reply... I believe that religion is man-made. Yes, it can be a wonderful thing when used correctly. As I said, there are some amazing Christians out there who make us proud. Thank you if you are one of them. But, I choose not to put a label of religion on myself. God didn't create Christianity, Catholicism, Mormonism, etc. etc. Man did. And I think that they have become way too caught up in the rules of religion and have forgotten that God just wants us to love others to the full extent, and live a life like Jesus did. I have given up on religion, but I haven't given up on God.

    I am not afraid to say that I follow Jesus. Christianity, however, is a man-made religion that I don't identify with. I know that you will not agree with this, but I'm trying to explain myself and my beliefs. My opinion is solid, and won't be changing, thanks.

    Ps. This guy. I agree with him 100%. (Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus.)

  6. If only people became THAT OUTRAGED at the countless tragic injustices in the world (poverty, hunger, sex trafficking etc...) as they do when somebody slips "shit"

    - j